Doctor's Appointment and Facebook

I had a doctors appointment yesterday.  I got to keep my pants on for the first time in like three years!!!  Now that is exciting people.  I had to go by myself because my husband was working at the hospital across town (his practice covers multiple different hospitals but he is usually at the hospital that I work in).  The nurse listened to the heartbeat and it was 164.  What a sweet sound that is....  She asked me a few questions and then left and said the Dr. C would be in in a minute.  A few minutes later there was a knock on the door and in walks my hubby!!!!!  I was shocked!  It made me cry....I was so happy to see him.  He had one case that he needed to do at this hospital so after he was done he just surprised me.  Brownie points for him :)


Then Dr. C came in and asked us some questions and I asked him the couple of questions that I had.  Then he started talking about the blood work that can be done at the next appointment....to check for your risk of Down's, Trisomy 18, and other stuff.  He wanted us to decide if we wanted to do it or not.  He said that if you know 100% that you would not get an amniocentesis then you might not want to get the lab done because then you would just worry and probably for no reason.  I always thought that I would for sure get all of this done no matter what because I would want to know.  Now that it is real I am not so sure....


When we were checking out the girl at the counter was so damn rude!  She made my appointment for next month, handed me the card and then just started working on her computer.  


Me: "Do I need to pay anything?"


Mean Girl: "I don't know...do you?"


Me: "Well I didn't pay anything last time sooooo...."


Mean Girl: "Do you not remember anything that we talked about last time?"


Me: After looking at my husband like WTF?  "Yes, I think it was like one eighty something per month if I didn't pay in a lump sum"


Mean Girl: "Do you want me to look it up?  I'll print you off another one so you will know next time."


I mean what the hell?  Is she just not ever going to ask me if I want to pay?  At the first appointment I asked her if I needed to pay and she said no.  Isn't this her job?  Are you telling me that if I had told her that I wanted to pay my $100 that she would have just believed that is how much I owe and not look it up?   I wanted to smack her!  She has never been very friendly but I felt like this was downright RUDE!  


Anyhoo.....appointment went well and I go back in a month.  I'll be 17 weeks then....WOW...


OK my next thing is this.  I haven't announced that I am pregnant on Facebook.  I don't think that I am going to.  Here is why....  Dealing with infertility for the past....forever it seems...I have seen many a pregnancy announcement on FB.  They don't all hurt....but most of them do.  I think it is just the surprise factor.  I mean one minute you are reading about someone's day at work or their husband and then SLAM!  it just slaps you in the face.  I know for a fact that there is one girl that is my friend that is struggling with IF....because I ran into her at the clinic.  I am sure there are some more because it is just so common.  I don't want to be the one to cause that hurt.  


And I haven't been able to figure out a way to say it that wouldn't hurt.  So I decided that I wasn't going to make a big announcement.  I told all of my friends and family that they could put whatever they wanted about it and that was fine.  I mean I plan to talk about it eventually on FB.  I thought this would actually help....because then there wouldn't be an announcement but people would figure it out.  Problem is...none of them will do it!  They are all scared to be the first to say something.  So it has been 2 1/2 weeks and not a word on FB...Is that not amazing?  I am totally shocked...I just figured it would get out there without me saying anything.


And there is this....  I kinda want to make an announcement!  I mean it is finally my turn.  I am the one who gets to say something cute about making my husband a daddy and get all the comments and all the excitement.  Totally selfish, right?  But there is a part of me that wants to say screw it and just do it.  I know there would be idiot comments as well but that is just part of the FB monster.  


So I am torn.  I thought my plan would work....but FB is totally silent about my pregnancy.  


How did you girls do it?  Or did you?  Any suggestions on a way to do it that might not hurt someone still struggling?  Am I totally overreacting?  UGH!  I really hate Facebook sometimes.....