Tuesday, April 29, 2014

IVF #6 update

The last I mentioned about our upcoming IVF was when we got home from Denver for the full day of testing.  

The week after that we got all of the results back and everything looked great.  Our next step was to get labs drawn on day 3 of my cycle.  They had to send me a kit and I had to get the blood drawn at my old clinic and they shipped it to Denver.  This was mildly stressful, could have been a lot worse.  Mainly, I was worried about the clinic doing the kit correctly but that wasn't a problem.  I was also a little nervous because I had to tell my old clinic that we were going with the Denver clinic.  I didn't mind telling them I just wanted to get it over with and not dwell on it.  Blech.  

My nurse from CCRM, we will call her J, called with the results of those labs.  I was a little bit nervous about the results and I will tell you why.  They check estrogen, FSH (follicle stimulating hormone, and LH (luteinizing hormone).  My FSH has always been borderline high.  Dr. B has told me it was just a little high for my age before our last 3 IVF's.  (I believe the numbers were around 12 and 13 each time...and they want it less than 10).  Older women have higher FSH levels which mean your ovaries just aren't producing like they did when you were younger.  I just turned 32, so not old.  I was worried since my eggs haven't been so great the last 2 IVF's that maybe my FSH would be sky high.  All of that explanation to say that J told me my FSH was fine...it was 9.  I was so happy to hear this.  

J explained to me the protocol Dr. S had decided upon.  It is different than what we have done before.  Previously I have been on birth control pills for about a month before starting any medication.  This protocol has no birth control pills and I begin medication based on when I ovulate instead of when I start my period.  She told me we could get started when I ovulated.  At this point I was on about day 8 so that meant we could get started really soon!  I wasn't ready and it was going to run into our beach trip.  We are absolutely going to the beach so I told her we needed to put it off another month.

Once we got the protocol and the calendar from CCRM Lonnie and I got to work looking at his schedule and trying to make sure this was going to work out.  We don't know things down to the day because anything can change but we were a little worried about the timing for when Lonnie was going to need to come out to Denver.  He had a call weekend around that time and that would be nearly impossible to switch.  We were looking at this a few weeks ago when he was off for a few days.  We realized that we may need a back up sample from him in the event that he can't make it out for my egg retrieval. (Please do not let that happen!)  But the only days he was off until the time for the egg retrieval were right then.  So we decided to fly him out to Denver to give his sample and then he flew back home the next day.  Yeah.  A little crazy.  Or maybe a lot crazy.  But there was just no way we could go through with all of this and then get almost to the end and him not be able to come.  That would have been a huge waste of everything.  So this seemed worth it to us.  (Please lord let travel expenses for IVF be tax deductible, anyone know anything about that?)  

Anyway, so I guess that is where we are now.  I will start testing for ovulation in another few days and then I will start medication 10 days after I ovulate.  I will be on that medication for a few weeks or so and then I will start the stimulation medication.  That is when things get real.

I will have one appointment at my old clinic for lab and ultrasound to make sure my ovaries are suppressed and then I will head out to Denver for all other monitoring.  

So that is all of the technical stuff.  Now how about the emotional stuff?  

I am really excited about this.  I am nervous, of course, but I am ready to do this.  I trust this clinic fully and that really helps.  I have to be able to let go of control and let them do what they are trained to do.  They know this stuff and I have to let them guide me and I trust they will guide me in the right direction.  

I want this to work so very badly.  I want to be pregnant again.  I want to feel a baby kick inside me.  I want to give birth to another baby.  I want to nurse again.  I want to make Blakely a big sister.  I want to see Lonnie holding our newborn again.  I want the sleepless nights.  I want the sore vagina.  I want the stinky spit up filled burp cloths.  I want it all.  Sometimes I feel like I need it.  I know that sounds weird but I almost feel like my life is on hold while we just wait and see what our family is going to look like.  We know what we want.  We have talked a few times about "what if we were fertile"?  We both agree that if we were able to choose when we got pregnant and how many kids we were going to have that we would for sure already have another one and we both would like to have a third.  I know we only have one so it is hard to say what we would want once we had a second but the point is we don't get to decide.  We don't have that privilege.  I can't even imagine being able to say, "Ok, our family is complete".  Am I ever going to feel like that?  I don't know but I know I don't feel that way now.  But I know we are lucky.  I know that.  I am focusing on that and staying positive through this whole process.  Actually I am just imagining that it is going to work.  Surely if I think it enough it will happen, right? 

Friday, April 25, 2014

Easter 2014...as if you haven't had enough :)

We had a great Easter weekend and I wanted to get a few pictures up to prove that we did actually get dressed up!   


picture of a picture because I am about tho throw my scanner in the lake.  But it did turn out much better than last year!  

Friday morning we went to gymnastics as usual.  Her teacher dressed up like the Easter bunny and we took pics of the kids.  Blakely jumped right in and it reminded me that last year she 100% did not want to go near Mrs. Bethany in that suit and I had to bribe her with a piece of candy.  What a difference a year can make.  

On Friday night my mom came over and we dyed eggs.  Blakely enjoyed it but mostly putting the stickers on the eggs after they were dyed.







I got up early Saturday morning to get all of our stuff ready to go to my BIL's house.  Blakely slept almost the whole way and she was so excited to see C and S.  They played outside while we hung out and got things ready for brunch the next day.  

At one point S brought Blakely into the kitchen looking like this...

Makeup and dress up.  My girl was thrilled.  Although I think she would be thrilled with whatever S wanted to do!  Blakely even got to keep some of the outfits because they don't fit S anymore.    

The kids had a ball.  Besides dress up, they played in the sand outside, they read books to Blakely, they played hide and seek, they dyed more eggs, they pushed B around on their scooters and go cart and they ended the night by eating dinner outside in the new pool (that doesn't have water yet).  C and S passed out before Blakely.  I finally told B that she had to go to bed for the Easter bunny to come.  That did it and she conked out quick.  


Sunday morning we all got up really early to get ready for church.  Except Blakely.  I think she would have slept a lot longer.  I actually had to wake her up so she could see her Easter basket before we had to leave for church.  I was a little nervous about taking Blakely to church but she did great.  My child is definitely not used to being quiet for that long.  I was armed with all kinds of snacks!  When we got there my SIL plopped right down on the front row.  I wasn't all that fired up about that but it worked out fine and Blakely didn't run on stage and try to play the piano or anything.  Although she wanted to.  

After church we headed back to the house and did an Easter egg hunt.  Blakely wasn't all that into the hunting of the eggs.  I think she was distracted by her cousins running around like crazy.  She was more concerned with opening each egg that she found.  




Look, Mom!

One of her peeps is never too far.  On this day it was "purple Min.nie"


Blakely's favorite thing about Easter was the piano.  Oh my.  She would have sat there and played it for ages.  S is pretty good at it so she played songs B knows and my girl would sing sing sing.  She loved it.  We are definitely gong to look into lessons in the future. 


After stuffing our faces with all kinds of food we left for the drive home.  Lonnie and Blakely didn't make it to the interstate before passing out.  :)
It was a great weekend with family and we can't wait to go back this summer when the pool will be finished!  

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Things

I know I've been pretty quiet on the blog lately.  I don't really have a reason.  Ha!  We do have a lot of things going on and I just can't seem to want to detail all of it out here just yet.  I've sat down to try to write about each thing but after a few minutes I delete it all and walk away.  Just not really in a writing mood I guess.  We will go with bullets for today just as an update.  

  • Blakely has been giving me a run for my money lately (this week).  She says "No, Mom!" in a super sassy tone to every. single. thing I ask of her.  She wants to do everything "right now, Mom!" and anything I suggest we do is, "No!  I don't want to".  Talking back at the age of 2.  Awesome.  It is really wearing on my patience, today especially.  It is 3:30 and I am ready for the wine!  
  • There may be some big things changing about Lonnie's job.  We don't know yet and I am not sure when we will know.  But change can be good so we are trying not to stress too much.  And if the change isn't good I say we pack up and move to the beach, amiright?
  • Speaking of beach, our annual beach trip is coming up.  I've been busy planning and preparing for that.  I am definitely looking forward to it but I am in no way ready to see myself in a bathing suit.  Scary.  Maybe I will fast for the next month.  ;)
  • We are going ahead with an IVF at our new clinic fairly soon.  I really want to write a lengthy post about this but I just haven't been up for it.  Weird.  But anyway, it is happening and I have been planning and preparing for that as well.  I will have to be away from home for over a week so there are a lot of things that I need to do for all the people who are going to be helping out with Blakely.  I am anxious, nervous and very excited all at the same time.  
  • Recently I have become totally overwhelmed with all of the crap in our house.  Like where did it all come from?  I am in the mood to purge all of the things.  Two days ago I cleaned out our upstairs bathroom.  This is the bathroom Blakely and I use to shower/bathe and get ready each day.  (Ha...as if I "get ready" each day)  I threw away an entire trash bag of stuff.  How does a bathroom have an entire trash bag worth of junk in it?  Yesterday I started on the laundry room.  You don't even want to know what it looks like.  I am over all of this clutter!  
After typing that out I guess I do have a lot on my mind!  Anyway, I am still here and will hopefully get back to more frequent updates soon!  



Thursday, April 17, 2014

Easter basket blog hop

Linking up with Sarah again this year for the Easter Basket Blog Hop!  

I love seeing what everyone puts in their child's basket.  I remember being so excited when I was a kid to see what was in mine.  Blakely is definitely looking forward to it.  We are going to my BIL and SIL's house to celebrate and she can't stop talking about getting to see Collier and Syble and finding Easter eggs with them!  Here is Blakely's basket.  I will admit that I got too much stuff.  I even went back and bought a bigger basket and it still isn't big enough!  In my defense we are heading to the beach soon so some of the little stuff is to keep her entertained on the 12 hour drive.  


A few of the bigger things in her basket are....

Rapunzel dress up dress.  It rained alllllll weekend here so we were stuck inside.  We watched Tan.gled for the first time and Blakely was entranced.  Just adding to the growing collection in her dress up box.  

Huge thing of sidewalk chalk.  Should last a few weeks, right?    

 

A few new beach toys for our upcoming beach trip.  


She is getting these sun sandals to wear with her Easter dress.  I really wanted white but they didn't have her size (9).  She may have gotten a pair of silver ones for the beach too.  Don't tell Daddy!  

This shirt.  I mean does it come in my size?  



And this hat for the beach!  You can't tell in the pic but it has metallic gold sparkles all over it.  She is going to flip.  

A few other smaller things in her basket.  

  • some Bubb.le Gupp.ies books and a few Fro.zen books
  • princess tattoos
  • princess crazy straws
  • NEW PANTIES.  She needs them so bad.  Hers have been near cutting off her circulation for a few weeks!  
  • a cup with a flip top lid like mine
  • bubble bath
  • stickers
  • a couple of things of play-doh and some animal cut outs to go with.  
I hope everyone has a wonderful Easter!  

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Two and a half


I have been referring to Blakely as 2.5 for a month or so but I knew that technically she wasn't.  Until last Sunday.  EEP!  Since this is a pretty big milestone and I haven't done a Blakely lately post recently I thought I would jot down a few things she is doing now.  You know the drill.  Feel free to skim!  

EATING:  She goes through phases with eating.  Some times she wants to eat all day every day and then she will go a while just picking at her food.  I have no complaints because she is a good eater and always has been (thank you B).  She will try new things and she likes healthy food along with the not so healthy.  She has been getting more "treats" that I would like lately.  Occasionally at MDO they give the kids skittles if they help one of the teachers with something or for going to the potty.  She doesn't get them for pottying since she's been doing that for over 6 months but she does like to help them clean up or close the blinds or whatever.  I think it is okay since she is only there 2 days a week.  

Some of her favorite foods are
anything (and I mean anything) dipped in ranch dressing.  
cauliflower
peas
quesadillas
any kind of chip
eggs
corn
cashews
macaroni and cheese
yogurt
She loves all fruit but especially strawberries, raspberries and blueberries

(As I was writing this I asked her what her favorite thing to eat was and she said strawberries.  So there ya go...she could write this post herself.)  

She is pretty good about trying anything but she HATES tuna fish.  I have tried many times over the past year and she just isn't going to go for it.  I'm actually okay with that because Lonnie hates it too so it is the only thing that I can make and not have to share with anyone!  

This is random but it has been going on for a while so I thought I would document it.  For the most part Blakely wants to have her food separated on her plate.  She isn't really interested in any casserole that I make but if I put the exact same ingredients on her plate just separately then she will chow down.  This drives me nuts.    

SLEEPING:  Ehh.  Sleep has been hit or miss since she turned 2.  Around that time we went through a crazy phase where she would wake up at about midnight screaming her head off.   Like screaming before she even woke up or stood up in her crib.  I would go in and get in her queen size bed that is in her room with her.  I was being lazy because I was super tired.  I knew she would go right back to sleep with me.  After about month of this I knew I needed to break the cycle.  It was rough but I did.  Then her sleep was fine for a while.  Now we are back in a stage of waking up screaming bloody murder.  Thankfully I can calm her down after 10 minutes or so and she will fall back asleep in her crib.  The main problem with this is she won't let Lonnie calm her down.  She screams and screams for MOMMY!  Makes me sad but at least I can calm her down.  Also, crib. for. life.  I am so not ready to move her to a big girl bed.  I think part of this is because it is the last "baby" thing and I am hanging on to it for dear life.  

POTTY:  Blakely has been potty trained since last summer.  She has been napping in panties since the beginning of the year.  She was still in pull ups for naps at MDO but would always wake up dry.  I told them to start napping her in panties a few weeks ago and she has done fine.  I knew she would since she naps 4 out of seven days at home in panties with no problems.  For some reason I just never told them to stop using the pull ups.  Anyway, I don't have to buy pulls ups anymore.  She still sleeps in a diaper at night.  I am in no rush to change that.  She wakes up wet in the mornings but it is starting to get less and less wet.  Now she wants to immediately take off her wet diaper when, up until a month or so ago, she didn't mind leaving that wet diaper on for a while.  So we will see how that progresses but I am not pushing it.  Mainly because she is still in the crib so I would have to get her out to help her go in the middle of the night.  (Random but she woke up dry this morning and was so proud of herself and asked for a marshmallow?!)  

CLOTHING:  She wears mainly a 3T.  She can wear some 2T shorts but not pants because they are usually too short.  My girl is tall.  Sidenote...I am obsessed with toddler clothes.  I didn't really buy her much stuff for the winter because she could wear most of the stuff from the winter before.  (Since she was in cloth diapers then her clothes were a size or two up..so they still fit once we ditched the diapers).  Now that it is warming up outside I realized she had no spring/summer clothes.  She had a few shirts that barely fit but they were very worn and borderline crop tops!  So I went on a little shopping spree.  I've been getting about a package a day for 4-5 days and holy fun!  Unfortunately for Lonnie she seems to be as excited to try on her new clothes as I am buying them!  

When I was doing the online shopping with Blakely in my lap I came across some adorable leggings and said HOLY!  Blakely immediately chimed in with SMOKES!  Can we talk about how happy I was that she didn't say shit.  Because that is definitely what I thought was coming out of her mouth at first.  

TALKING:  I love listening to Blakely talk.  She is in the stage right now where she has conversations with her stuffed animals.  I love eavesdropping on that and seeing if I can figure out her little convos.  It usually consists of her asking Minnie if she wants some tea, giving her the tea and then asking her if she likes the tea.  Or a whole conversation about going "night night" and "time to wake up".  She asks soft bear if he wants dinner.  Then she says okay me make you dinner.  Yummy!  I love watching her imagination come to life.  

She is sort of obsessed with peoples names right now.  She asks me all the time "what's her name?" or "what's his name?"  She does this in public or she will point out every character in a book and ask me that.  If I know the name I will tell her and she never forgets.  If the character doesn't have a name then I tell her she can make one up.  Usually she names people Susie (shoo-dee) or Olivia (uh-wib-ee-uh).  

She still mostly refers to herself as "me".  Occasionally she will say "I" but mainly it is "me do this or me do that".  I correct her occasionally but I'am not crazy about it.  I will miss it when she corrects herself.   

On Sunday I told her it was her half birthday.  She said "What?  No, mom, it's my WHOLE birthday!"  Ha!  

SCHOOL:  She goes to MDO 2 days a week and she goes with Juanet 1 day a week.  I love this schedule and we are planning on keeping it next school year as well.  We won't have Juanet in the summer but MDO has just changed and they are going to be open just two days a week during the summer so we are going to still do that.  Blakely loves going to school and doesn't usually have a hard time when I drop her off.  I think it is a great place for her and she learns new stuff all of the time.  They say she is a little mama there.  Always checking on the babies (they have to be a year old to go so they aren't really babies) and rocking the stuffed animals all the time.  She tells me about all the other kids each day when I pick her up and she knows all of their moms too!  I don't even know that.  They also tell me that she likes things put in their place.  They've mention this a few times.  When they pick up their toys she has to make sure they are put up in the right spot.  Or when they stack the carpet mats up after learning circle she has to make sure they are stacked just right.  She is a little OCD like this at home too but I don't think as much as she is there.  Hey, at least she is cleaning up!  

She absolutely loves going with Juanet and when she comes to get her in the morning she runs right out to her car and hops in.  They go over to Juanet's friend's house as she keeps her little boy too.  Blakely is in MDO with him one day and with him at his house one day.  They are great friends and pretty darn cute.  She missed a week when we were in Denver and he told Juanet that he missed Blakely.  Then he told her that he wanted Blakely to come be his cheerleader at his t-ball game!  How adorable is that?  Juanet is so so good with them and I just can't say enough how thankful I am that we have her.  She is just the best and I know she takes wonderful care of my baby girl.  

ATTITUDE:  Well I know I have said before that my girl is sassy.  She is.  There is just no getting around that.  She has a little attitude but for the most part we are able to keep that in check.  The good news is that she is not this way at MDO or with Juanet (for the most part).  She saves all of that up for me.  Ha!  She doesn't give them any trouble but I do know that she watches everything the kids that DO get in trouble do.  Then she breaks that crap out at home.  Thankful for that, at least.  At the point of this writing (because it changes every day) she will listen to me if I threaten to give her a timeout.  But I only threaten it if I am going to giver her one.  She knows that and that is why I think she listens a little better now.  She hates timeouts and cries so hard when she does get one but she will stay in the chair so that is good.  It seems to go in spurts where she will get a bunch of timeouts for a few days and then she will mind well for a few days.  

OTHER TIDBITS:

This girl loves her gymnastics.  I am so impressed with how well she minds there now.  It used to be me chasing around a crazy child.  Now she does what the coach (?) asks of them and she is patient in waiting her turn.  Awesome.  

She has pretty good manners!  She says "pees" and "shank you" all the time.  She is now saying "no shank you" when she doesn't want something she's been offered.  We are working on "ma'am" and "sir".  Don't get me wrong though, here are plenty of times where her manners are terrible (screaming that she is done with dinner and WANTS DOWN NOW)!

She still loves singing.  It is a new song or rhyme every week.  Last week I heard her singing something about a turtle.  Then she would mumble a few things and then yell POP.  I kept asking her to sing it again and again so I could figure out what it was.  Finally I realized she was singing Tiny Tim.  Once I figured it out she was so excited!  I had to google the words so I could sing it with her.  I asked her who taught her that song and she said JUANET!  So thankful for Juanet loving my baby girl so much.  

The other day I heard her say something about God.  So random.  Then I paid more attention as she was talking to her peeps at her table.  She was saying "God is great.  God is good.  Let us thank him for our food.  A man."  Ha!  I know she didn't learn that from me so I asked her where she learned that.  She said at school during lunch.  I was unaware of this but it is a church program so I'm not surprised.  I guess what surprises me is that I can ask her these things and she can tell me.  So grown up.  

Soft bear (in the pictures) is her main peep right now.  We have a big one and a little one.  I usually sleep with the big one and she sleeps with the little one.  He goes to MDO with her too and she talks about him all the time.  

They had Dr. Seuss week at MDO at the beginning of March.  Since then she loves to read those books.  We have 4-5 of them and she always wants to read "just one more" before going to bed.  I'd say her favorite is Go, Dog, Go.  She can practically "read" it to me.  Which basically means she has memorized it.  

Speaking of memory, I swear this girl doesn't forget anything.  It honestly amazes me and kind of freaks me out sometimes.  While driving she points out everything she recognizes.  If we go somewhere new she never forgets that place again when we drive by.  I guess I just didn't realize how much she would remember at this age.  She remembers stuff from many months ago.  She has quite a few of her books memorized so I will let her "read" them to me sometimes.  Pretty cool but it means Lonnie and I can't get anything past her.  If we tell her we may do something then she holds us to it.  The days are gone when I could bribe her to go down for a nap by telling her we can paint when she wakes up and then hoping she will forget it.  Oh no.  She wakes up yelling "Mommy!!!  Me paint!"  

We have moved on from Mick.ey!  I repeat...we have moved on.  This mama is so happy.  Now I love me some Dis.ney but I just felt like she had learned all that show could teach her.  And I was so annoyed by it too.  Anyway, now she is obsessed with Bubb.le Gup.pies.  I do like this show because it teaches her different things than MMCH and apparently my child likes dinosaurs.  Who knew?  She only gets to watch 2 episodes a day when she is home with me all day (before nap and before bed) and one a day on school days (before bed).  

This is a totally random story but it's funny so I want to mention it.  I have a huge pimple on my face right now.  Like haven't had one like this since high school.  Anyway, here is a conversation with Blakely about it.  
B:  You have a mole on your face mom.  
me:  No, babe, that is a pimple.  
B:  WHAT?  Mommy has three nipples! ONE, TWO (as she points to my actual nipples) and THREE (as she points to my pimple)!!

Then she ran proudly to Lonnie and told him about my three nipples.  

Let's hope she doesn't go to school saying that today.  :/

Happy 2 and a half sweet and sassy B!